> > > >
> > > >Caitlin,
> > > >
> > > >I found you the same way- through Donny’s site to Bens site and i saw
> >you
> > > >had left a comment on his site one day a few months ago. Honestly I
> >had
> > > >written you off as a part of my life I didn’t want to remember…but
> >then
> > > >there you were and it all came back up again. I will be completely
> > >honest
> > > >with you here- 100% of what I will tell you is true. I sent your
> >myspace
> > > >page to Rob and told him it felt good to finally see your face
>because
> > > >after
> > > >all these years he still denies he ever cheated, or had anything to
>do
> > >with
> > > >you. I know differently and I have known for a long time. I guess
>its
> > > >time
> > > >to get some stuff off my chest and we can compare notes for our own
> > > >sanities. This is going to be a long one…
> > > >
> > > >Let me give you a timeline- I think you guys got together sometime in
> > >June
> > > >or July of 2004 at that wedding- well I was still living with him –
>he
> > >was
> > > >still telling me he loved me and would never cheat on me. And I knew
>he
> > > >went
> > > >to that wedding- he even called me that night. He had been working
> >with
> > > >Justin Christofferson in the oil business and going out of town for
> >weeks
> > > >at
> > > >a time- little did I know that sometimes he was going to see you and
> >then
> > > >would come home to me and make up stories about work. One day he
> > >mentioned
> > > >your name- told me a story of a girl named Kitty who hated Donny for
> >some
> > > >reason or another- I asked who Kitty was and he said “oh just this
>girl
> > > >from
> > > >Los Al”- Justin was in the room and he immediately got up and left- I
> > > >should
> > > >have taken the hint.
> > > >
> > > >He told you I had moved out- I lived there- you saw all my stuff
>still
> > > >there- I still lived there! (I probably slept in your sex sheets in
>my
> > >bed
> > > >and vice versa.) I left on August 16th to go visit my parents in
>Texas
> > >for
> > > >a
> > > >couple of weeks and I took MY dog with me- (the dog was a present
>from
> > >Rob
> > > >after my other pet rabbit had died- it wasn’t his dog.) Some things
> > > >happened while I was in Texas (my grandma died and the company I
>worked
> > >for
> > > >in Denver closed down) so I stayed for a bit longer. Rob and I were
> > >still
> > > >in constant contact on the phone. Labor Day weekend came and went
>and
> > > >suddenly Rob was telling me that he thought I should just stay in
>Texas
> > >for
> > > >a year because he would be traveling for his climbing 4 the cure
> > >business.
> > > >We decided to break up and it was mutual. I still had no idea about
> > >you.
> > > >Then I found out about his accident and called him to make sure he
>was
> > > >okay.
> > > >I remember asking him if there was anyone with him- and he said no
>that
> > >he
> > > >was alone. I asked him why he went to Winter Park alone (or wherever
> >it
> > > >was) and he said he was applying for jobs. In mid October of 2004 I
> >came
> > > >and
> > > >got my stuff out of the house, and there was a pair of black panties
> > > >hanging
> > > >in the bathroom- they weren’t mine. I figured he just moved on, it
> >hurt.
> > > >But I still didn’t know about you. Then in November I was talking to
> >my
> > > >friend Erin who was in our circle of friends at the time, and she
> > >mentioned
> > > >that Rob was not alone in his accident and then things started to
>make
> > > >sense. I talked to Justin and asked him if he would tell me the
>truth-
> > >if
> > > >there was a girl in the accident with Rob and if you had known each
> >other
> > > >before that…he told me that yes there was a girl in the truck with
> >him,
> > > >and that you had known each other for a while. I decided to use my
> >super
> > > >sleuthing skills and I broke into Robs email account- that’s when I
> >found
> > >a
> > > >whole bunch of emails between you two- that’s when I found out about
> >you.
> > >I
> > > >have known your name since then.
> > > >
> > > >He told you a whole bunch of lies girl. I read those emails he sent
> >you
> > > >and
> > > >I couldn’t believe he was a completely different person than who I
>had
> > > >known
> > > >for almost 7 years. He lied to you about when I moved out- I think
>he
> > >even
> > > >sent you an email that I supposedly had written to him- I never wrote
> > >that.
> > > >He told you I took his dog- the dog was mine- he told you I was some
> >sick
> > > >depressed crazy girl when it was in reality him who was on medication
> >for
> > > >bipolar disorder. He even lied to you about where he went when he
>was
> > > >working- as he did to me as well. I will never forget reading at the
> >end
> > >of
> > > >an email he sent you- it was a sob story about why I had supposedly
> >left
> > > >and
> > > >at the end he said “and the worst part was, she took my dog!” what a
> > > >friggin
> > > >liar. Do you still have any of those emails by chance? I used to
>have
> > > >them
> > > >but I deleted them.
> > > >
> > > >I couldn’t believe what I was reading when I found those emails. I
> > > >immediately called my friend Erin to tell her and she said she knew
>who
> > >you
> > > >were- she met you in Denver with Rob for lunch or breakfast or
> >something
> > > >and
> > > >that her boyfriend Zach had also cheated on her with you. Donny knew
> > >that
> > > >as well and he told me a little more about who you were, that you and
> >his
> > > >sister were friends etc. I was very curious about you- and I really
> > >wanted
> > > >to know what you looked like. I told Rob I knew everything- and he
> >still
> > > >denied it calling his friends liars and calling me names as well. He
> > >told
> > > >me that you were in the accident with him because he was driving you
>to
> > >see
> > > >your brother. Even after I told him I had read the emails! He is
> >crazy-
> > > >he’s not right in the head. He was still telling me that he loved me
> >in
> > > >December that year. And honestly I still thought that I loved him,
>but
> >I
> > > >couldn’t forgive him. It was so hard to get over him, because we
>were
> > > >together for almost 7 years. It wasn’t until just recently earlier
> >this
> > > >year that I was really able to let him go.
> > > >
> > > >It horrifies me that he treated you that way. He was never
>physically
> > > >violent with me- other than getting in my face and yelling or trying
>to
> > > >scare me senseless, he never put his hands on me. I am so sorry that
> >he
> > > >treated you like that; there is no excuse for that- ever. I wish you
> >had
> > > >pressed charges. It makes me sick reading about the way he treated
> >you.
> > > >Thinking back now- there were some warning signs I saw- he would act
> > >manic
> > > >and became hyper active at times, and at others would verbally berate
> >me
> > >in
> > > >front of friends and blame it on me. He is a sick person. I cannot
> > > >BELIEVE
> > > >he told people that he killed me. What an asshole. My mother always
> > >told
> > > >me that Rob would have killed me if I had stayed with him. I’m glad
> >that
> > > >you
> > > >have moved on as well. I feel sorry for the girl who finally gets
>the
> > > >full
> > > >brunt of his anger. I am so sorry that he scared you that way. No one
> > > >deserves that.
> > > >
> > > >You know for a long long time I hated you. I blamed the ruin of my
> > > >relationship on you for a long time too. I wondered for years why he
> > > >cheated
> > > >on me, what it was that I did to make him stray. I wondered what you
> > >looked
> > > >like, I had imagined you were some goddess like angel that he
>couldn’t
> > >help
> > > >himself over. Then I finally got to put a face to your name when I
>saw
> > > >your
> > > >pic on Ben’s myspace. You became a normal person just like me. It
> >wasn’t
> > > >until then that I discovered that it wasn’t my fault, and it wasn’t
> >your
> > > >fault either. It was Robs fault. He was the one who created this
> >whole
> > > >thing and you and I just got caught up in it. He ruined both of us;
>you
> > >and
> > > >I. He is like a tornado. He is dangerous and ruins everything in his
> > >path.
> > > >The day that I sent your pic to Rob, I finally forgave you. I was
>able
> > >to
> > > >get over a lot that day. I have been able to move on with my life in
> >the
> > > >last year, and I am in a great relationship now with a wonderful man.
> >He
> > > >treats me like I know I deserve to be treated and I truly believe
>that
> >he
> > > >loves me. It’s a completely different world coming out of that toxic
> > > >relationship with Rob.
> > > >
> > > >You were young when all this occurred. You were 18 the first time??
> >gosh.
> > > >You are probably 10 years younger than I am ha ha. It just goes to
> >show
> > > >you- you don’t really ever know the person you think you are closest
> >to.
> > > >Be
> > > >careful who you give yourself completely to, be careful with your
> >heart-
> > >it
> > > >is extremely fragile. I know you learned a lot from all of this, and
>I
> > > >have
> > > >as well, boy have I learned a lot. I just wanted to tell you thank
>you
> > >for
> > > >clearing up a lot of questions I have had for over two years now. It
> > > >starts
> > > >to eat away at you when you don’t have answers- you know?
> > > >
> > > >I guess my drunken mistake of sending you that friend request on
> >myspace
> > > >worked out in the end didn’t it? I’m going to send another one
>because
> >I
> > > >want people to know that you and I are strong independent women who
>can
> > > >deal
> > > >with knowing each other, that we have compared notes, and that we
>have
> > > >moved
> > > >on with our lives.
> > > >
> > > >Thanks again, hope to hear more from you. If you have any more
> >questions
> > > >please send them my way. I’m sure I will have more stories as they
> >come
> > > >back into my memory.
> > > >
> > > Jenni