Comments on: brought to you by the letters pms http://thejenni.com/2007/03/brought-to-you-by-the-letters-pms/ REDUX Mon, 24 May 2010 23:07:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Beth http://thejenni.com/2007/03/brought-to-you-by-the-letters-pms/comment-page-1/#comment-849 Beth Thu, 29 Mar 2007 22:54:00 +0000 http://jen872.wordpress.com/2007/03/28/brought-to-you-by-the-letters-pms/#comment-849 I was just going to point out the title of his post. DONT read to hard into it. Hell the new boy doesnt even introduce me to his friends when we are out, I have to introduce myself. Its not that he is embarrased of him or doesnt care for me...its just that he doesnt think and forgets that someone may not know me. DEEP breath...it will be okay. I was just going to point out the title of his post. DONT read to hard into it. Hell the new boy doesnt even introduce me to his friends when we are out, I have to introduce myself. Its not that he is embarrased of him or doesnt care for me…its just that he doesnt think and forgets that someone may not know me.

DEEP breath…it will be okay.

]]> By: JaLo http://thejenni.com/2007/03/brought-to-you-by-the-letters-pms/comment-page-1/#comment-848 JaLo Thu, 29 Mar 2007 21:51:51 +0000 http://jen872.wordpress.com/2007/03/28/brought-to-you-by-the-letters-pms/#comment-848 I've been in long distance relationship with my boyfriend for a while and yet we still refer to each other as "..the girl/guy I'm seeing..." Do I know I'm THE girl for him? Absolutely. Does he know he's THE guy for me? Absolutely. So why do we refer to each other this way? Well - sometimes it's easier to do that to reflect the next set of questions that start out with "...well why aren't you living near/with him.." or "..how much time do you spend together.." and the "gee...that must be hard" coversation. We both know what the circumstances are and why we aren't physically together in the same state. We each know what we mean to each other and we each know it doesn't matter how we refer to each other when talking about them with other people - I AM his girl and he IS my guy and there is no one else for us. If we are all we talk about to other people, no matter how we refer to each other, people know. But in the end, it doesn't matter what people know - it's what we know and feel. I’ve been in long distance relationship with my boyfriend for a while and yet we still refer to each other as “..the girl/guy I’m seeing…” Do I know I’m THE girl for him? Absolutely. Does he know he’s THE guy for me? Absolutely. So why do we refer to each other this way? Well – sometimes it’s easier to do that to reflect the next set of questions that start out with “…well why aren’t you living near/with him..” or “..how much time do you spend together..” and the “gee…that must be hard” coversation. We both know what the circumstances are and why we aren’t physically together in the same state. We each know what we mean to each other and we each know it doesn’t matter how we refer to each other when talking about them with other people – I AM his girl and he IS my guy and there is no one else for us. If we are all we talk about to other people, no matter how we refer to each other, people know. But in the end, it doesn’t matter what people know – it’s what we know and feel.

]]> By: Jackie http://thejenni.com/2007/03/brought-to-you-by-the-letters-pms/comment-page-1/#comment-847 Jackie Thu, 29 Mar 2007 07:51:20 +0000 http://jen872.wordpress.com/2007/03/28/brought-to-you-by-the-letters-pms/#comment-847 Hi Jenni, I am Jackie, one of the English family Chris lived with for a while (and he probably never even mentioned us!). Been reading your blog and delighted Chris has found someone so special to be happy with. I knew him as a warm hearted, unusual guy (and you wouldn't fall for a lesser mortal) who was very private and self-contained in public. So,unless he's changed a whole lot, I agree with Jillster...this was a highly significant statement. A little awkward maybe but for all that, rather touching. With Chris I'd certainly lay money on there being no hidden agenda, no trying to play it down. Just an initial swing at announcing his relationship with you. Don't expect blogsful of hearts and flowers - don't think its a rugby dudes modus operandi! Hi Jenni, I am Jackie, one of the English family Chris lived with for a while (and he probably never even mentioned us!). Been reading your blog and delighted Chris has found someone so special to be happy with. I knew him as a warm hearted, unusual guy (and you wouldn’t fall for a lesser mortal) who was very private and self-contained in public. So,unless he’s changed a whole lot, I agree with Jillster…this was a highly significant statement. A little awkward maybe but for all that, rather touching. With Chris I’d certainly lay money on there being no hidden agenda, no trying to play it down. Just an initial swing at announcing his relationship with you. Don’t expect blogsful of hearts and flowers – don’t think its a rugby dudes modus operandi!

]]> By: Jillster http://thejenni.com/2007/03/brought-to-you-by-the-letters-pms/comment-page-1/#comment-846 Jillster Wed, 28 Mar 2007 22:14:36 +0000 http://jen872.wordpress.com/2007/03/28/brought-to-you-by-the-letters-pms/#comment-846 Did anyone notice the title of his blog post? "See I DO have a girlfriend… Girlfriend…" I think he's finally claiming you publicly...he's not exactly shouting his love off the rooftops, but for him, this might be a significant statement. Did anyone notice the title of his blog post?

“See I DO have a girlfriend… Girlfriend…”

I think he’s finally claiming you publicly…he’s not exactly shouting his love off the rooftops, but for him, this might be a significant statement.

]]> By: Anne-Marie http://thejenni.com/2007/03/brought-to-you-by-the-letters-pms/comment-page-1/#comment-845 Anne-Marie Wed, 28 Mar 2007 21:14:37 +0000 http://jen872.wordpress.com/2007/03/28/brought-to-you-by-the-letters-pms/#comment-845 Hi Jen, Ok - I would feel just like you do and I must admit I did sort of wonder at that remark when I read it but....I will ask Simon cause he's a guy ...... OK Simon reckons just to ask him because guys do play down how much they love there girlfriend to there mates... Axxx Hi Jen,

Ok – I would feel just like you do and I must admit I did sort of wonder at that remark when I read it but….I will ask Simon cause he’s a guy ……

OK Simon reckons just to ask him because guys do play down how much they love there girlfriend to there mates…

Axxx

]]> By: Amy http://thejenni.com/2007/03/brought-to-you-by-the-letters-pms/comment-page-1/#comment-842 Amy Wed, 28 Mar 2007 20:04:40 +0000 http://jen872.wordpress.com/2007/03/28/brought-to-you-by-the-letters-pms/#comment-842 It depends on the guy. If he's shy about talking about his personal life, then I wouldn't be too worried about it. I don't know him or his readers, so there are some unknown factors there, but when I read it, it didn't strike me as weird. If I were you, I'd stop freaking out over it and ask him about it. Say, "it bugs me that that's all you have to say about me." If he seems surprised by your reaction and has a sincere response, then you know it wasn't meant in any bad way. If he hems and haws and gets defensive, then you know he's been avoiding the issue. However, considering that he hardly ever updates his blog, this is his first mention of you, and that he thought it worthwhile to mention (as opposed to anything else going on in his life for the last couple of months), I'd take it as a good sign. It just looked to me like he wanted to mention you but didn't want to go all gooey -- and maybe erred on the side of caution. There is no point in flipping out about it at this point. If there is a pattern in this kind of behavior, then ... but if this is a first-time offense, take a step back, a deep breath, and re-evaluate the whole thing. Most importantly, talk to HIM about it, because obviously he does not read your mind. It depends on the guy. If he’s shy about talking about his personal life, then I wouldn’t be too worried about it. I don’t know him or his readers, so there are some unknown factors there, but when I read it, it didn’t strike me as weird.

If I were you, I’d stop freaking out over it and ask him about it. Say, “it bugs me that that’s all you have to say about me.” If he seems surprised by your reaction and has a sincere response, then you know it wasn’t meant in any bad way. If he hems and haws and gets defensive, then you know he’s been avoiding the issue.

However, considering that he hardly ever updates his blog, this is his first mention of you, and that he thought it worthwhile to mention (as opposed to anything else going on in his life for the last couple of months), I’d take it as a good sign. It just looked to me like he wanted to mention you but didn’t want to go all gooey — and maybe erred on the side of caution.

There is no point in flipping out about it at this point. If there is a pattern in this kind of behavior, then … but if this is a first-time offense, take a step back, a deep breath, and re-evaluate the whole thing. Most importantly, talk to HIM about it, because obviously he does not read your mind.

]]> By: Jaime http://thejenni.com/2007/03/brought-to-you-by-the-letters-pms/comment-page-1/#comment-844 Jaime Wed, 28 Mar 2007 18:53:06 +0000 http://jen872.wordpress.com/2007/03/28/brought-to-you-by-the-letters-pms/#comment-844 I personally don't think you are over reacting. SERIOUSLY, I'd be doing the same thing. Questioning yourself and the situation, and feeling like you just got dropped kicked in the stomache. I have been reading your blog from day one. I somewhat know the type of person you are just from reading for the past 1+ years. This is very normal for you. It would be very normal for me as well to feel the same way. I visit his site, and when I read that I was a bit thrown off by it too. It def didn't make it sound like you 2 were in a serious relationship of 8 months. Just simply confront him. If he knows you at all then he knows of your insecureties/sensitivities and will find a way to reassure you other than flipping at the fact that you are even questioning the situation. I would question it. I always find that no matter the age, men always act like kids/teenagers. They never take the serious things serious and, like my husband, plays actions and words off as "jokes" most of the time. It is also very possible that this could be just an inside joke w/ his friends. Non the less, it does get old. But in the end result he should be careful w/ the words he chooses and take SOME things a little more seriously. I hope everything turns out ok. :) *smile* I personally don’t think you are over reacting. SERIOUSLY, I’d be doing the same thing. Questioning yourself and the situation, and feeling like you just got dropped kicked in the stomache. I have been reading your blog from day one. I somewhat know the type of person you are just from reading for the past 1+ years. This is very normal for you. It would be very normal for me as well to feel the same way. I visit his site, and when I read that I was a bit thrown off by it too. It def didn’t make it sound like you 2 were in a serious relationship of 8 months. Just simply confront him. If he knows you at all then he knows of your insecureties/sensitivities and will find a way to reassure you other than flipping at the fact that you are even questioning the situation. I would question it. I always find that no matter the age, men always act like kids/teenagers. They never take the serious things serious and, like my husband, plays actions and words off as “jokes” most of the time. It is also very possible that this could be just an inside joke w/ his friends. Non the less, it does get old. But in the end result he should be careful w/ the words he chooses and take SOME things a little more seriously. I hope everything turns out ok. :) *smile*

]]> By: NeShaydith http://thejenni.com/2007/03/brought-to-you-by-the-letters-pms/comment-page-1/#comment-843 NeShaydith Wed, 28 Mar 2007 16:01:53 +0000 http://jen872.wordpress.com/2007/03/28/brought-to-you-by-the-letters-pms/#comment-843 Jenni, I would just bring what he said up to him. You have a right to have gotten your feelings hurt, but don't blow it up when you talk to him. I would just bring it up and let him know that it hurt your feelings. Chances are he did not even put any thought into what he said, and if you bring it up he will set the record straight and watch what he says next time. NeShaydith Jenni,

I would just bring what he said up to him. You have a right to have gotten your feelings hurt, but don’t blow it up when you talk to him. I would just bring it up and let him know that it hurt your feelings. Chances are he did not even put any thought into what he said, and if you bring it up he will set the record straight and watch what he says next time.

NeShaydith

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